1. Infantile, baby talk and cooing. I don’t see a baby.
Don’t talk to me like one. (or to anyone for that matter)
2. Damsel in
Distress act – there is no knight in shining armor. If there was one, he would
be running away from you.
3. The martyr – the sacrificing, queen of misery and
regretful ranting. You are the master of your destiny. Not your husband or your
parents.
4. Being mean to other women – really? Research has shown
that women are more sensitive to social exclusion and thus when they feel
threatened by a woman, and find themselves being potentially left out of
something , they retaliate - by being mean. From an evolutionary perspective
that makes sense. But hey, we overcame living in caves and eating uncooked
meat, so we can overcome this too. Right?
5. Underselling themselves. Or being bad at negotiating.
Again, data shows that women start off on a worse salary
than their male counterparts just because they don’t negotiate as hard.
Can you please, like, maybe, think a little, possibly about
doing this little thing, if its is convenient, you know, sorry about that.
6. Living life adhering to roles: daughter, wife, mother,
etc, It’s only a part of you. Not you.
7. Perpetuating sexist stereotypes: “ Boys will be boys “,
“girls should not behave this way”, “nice girls don’t do that”.
8. Run away from opportunities/change. * Run * - STOP.
9. The mundane one – letting your life revolve around one
person. Classic satellite issues.
10. Following
traditions that perpetuate sexist and male dominant values in society. I can
think of several examples from India particularly in the Hindu faith that
oblige a woman to adorn herself in a multitude of ways to indicate her
betrothal. Are we chattel? * Rhetorical Question *
Some women however might like to do so, and that’s ok, as
long as a question is asked as to the intention behind the action. ‘tis all.
Peace.
** Suggested Serving.
I like :-). It took me a long time to get over Point 3 -parents and I'm only starting to realise Point 6.
ReplyDelete@MistyMotif - I know, we are conditioned, sometimes it becomes difficult to look at it objectively....
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