Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Radiance of our being

 With Aam Admi Party (AAP) and Somnath Bharti thronging the airtime on major news channels, somewhere in the background the issue of race was touched upon. There was much furore caused by the alleged presumption on part of Mr.Bharti when he was allegedly acting on complaints by residents of Khirki village against certain Uganda nationals. What transpires on these allegations in the end, is not the point of this piece of work. Many articles have since then come up about the racism prevalent in India (you can read one here) and while it does ring a bell, and makes me nod my head acknowledging that there is xenophobia that pervades our nation, it also gets me thinking.

I think xenophobia is a very real problem in India, but I think discussing this is essentially premature­ – us getting too far ahead of ourselves. Perhaps it is important to address a topic closer to home –the discrimination prevalent and entrenched in our society itself.
Indians love fair skin. It’s not completely random though. The ancient Indians were Dravidians who were much darker skinned then what we see today. Of course the fairer-skinned Aryans coming in from north-west and pushing the Dravidians south ensured that North India was predominantly lighter skinned than South.
As the caste system began to spread it tentacles in ancient India, darker skinned became associated with menial, hard labour – ergo the lower class, and a lighter complexion was often symbolic of higher castes.  The Britishers followed, the ruling elite, the fairest of them all. Their power, position and appearance became something to be aspired for. Given this historical and sociological perspective, it is understandable (though not acceptable to say the least) that Indians are obsessed with fair skin (for the most part).


Fair and Lovely cream, manufactured by Unilever is the most popular cream in India for skin lightening (I can’t vouch for its effectiveness of account of never having used it). So popular it is that now there is a Fair and Handsome cream manufactured by Emami and endorsed by a top Bollywood actor –targeted for men! Corporates behind these brands often argue that if one uses makeup to feel and look good, then looking fair is a choice too, and something that people should not be denied. While I have to give them credit for this ingenious rationale, I must say I am not buying it (the argument or the cream). 

map of the world showing the distributiion of human skin color in about 1500 A.D.--darker skin colors are found mostly between 20 degrees north and south of the equator
Source:   Data for native populations collected by R. Biasutti prior to 1940.

One would think that a country with such shades of skin from white-peaches complexion of the people from Kashmir and Himachal, to the wheatish color of the dwellers of the northern-plains, and the dark and caramel complexion of the people from south, and many many shades in between, we would be more tolerant and accepting of this myriad of shades, but instead, capitalist propaganda feeds of our insecurities and archaic social traditions to forward their own interests. Yet, it’s not all a commercial argument at the end. Men and women seeking out matches on portals for marriages want someone who earns well, is understanding and sweet, and oh of course, Fair! And may shame fall upon the family that gets a dark daughter in-law! Tch tch! 
In the light of all these biases, it’s no wonder that we are xenophobic. And mind you this is a shade-y xenophobia. Indians will embrace all things white (Americans, Russians, British, etc,), take photos with them outside Taj Mahal. But the darker of the lot? No sir, we don’t like foreigners.
But why should we? When we can’t tolerate our Indian neighbors who speak another language and look a little different. Is this xenophobia or just ignorance? Are we confusing darkness of the skin for darkness of the soul?

“Gori hai kya”(Is she fair?), “Kaali syah jaisi hai”(she is dark like ink)
With thoughts like these bouncing of the mouths and walls of homes, how can you expect a young girl to grow up to be a self respecting woman or your son to respect and appreciate different shades? Maybe before we ask companies to stop selling these skin-lightening creams, we should look into our own homes, and tell our children and mothers that color is a color, and just that.  Indeed, beauty does not know color. I think amidst all this talk, we often lose sight of what is important­– the radiance of our being and not of our skin.     

PS: I have to acknowledge the work of "Dark is Beautiful Campaign" (you can read about them here)
     



            

Thursday, January 16, 2014

10 Endearing Things about my India

1. Bhelpuri, Pani Puri and Aloo chat is a valid form of dinner.



File:Delhi Chaat with saunth chutney.jpg
                                                                                       Source: http://www.flickr.com/photos/74852128@N00/3107779760/

2. Wearing a dupatta and bindi with jeans and a tee shirt is the coolest Indo-western attire.
    

                                           

                                                Source: http://www.glamcheck.com/bollywood/2013/01/03/bindi-styles-indian-women/

3. How people become your best friend within an hour of meeting them

                                                            Source:http://arunoday.blogspot.hk/2010/05/free-hugs-and-maa.html



4. How giving a missed call is an acceptable form of communication                         
                           
                                                              Source: quora.com

5. All men driving buses, autorickshaws, serving chai and other sundries automatically become bhaiya – brother.

6. Bollywood and cricket unifies the nation more than any other thing known to Indians
                                           
                                            Source: http://cricketmademecrazy.blogspot.hk/2012/07/interesting-facts-about-sachin-tendulkar.html 


7. Nothing happens without a song and dance. Nothing.

                                   
                                      Source: http://chandrakantha.com/articles/indian_music/nritya/bollywood.html


8. Gujjiya on Holi, Halwa on Ashtami, All forms of Mithai (sweets) on Diwali. 

 

Source: http://shailbalasingh.blogspot.hk/2008/09/gujjiyas-kajuriya.html
http://whatscookingmom.in/gajar-ka-halwa/
http://zeenews.india.com/entertainment/gourmet/recipe/recipe-kaju-ki-burfi_1094.htm


9. How a mosque, temple, gurudwara and church can all be found within a one kilometer radius.

10. An evening ripe with the smell of the tandoor in the distance, a nip in the air,and ghazals by Ghalib playing  in the background.

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Tuesday, December 3, 2013

10 Things Which Women Should Stop Doing.**

1. Infantile, baby talk and cooing. I don’t see a baby. Don’t talk to me like one. (or to anyone for that matter)

2.  Damsel in Distress act – there is no knight in shining armor. If there was one, he would be running away from you.

3. The martyr – the sacrificing, queen of misery and regretful ranting. You are the master of your destiny. Not your husband or your parents.

4. Being mean to other women – really? Research has shown that women are more sensitive to social exclusion and thus when they feel threatened by a woman, and find themselves being potentially left out of something , they retaliate - by being mean. From an evolutionary perspective that makes sense. But hey, we overcame living in caves and eating uncooked meat, so we can overcome this too. Right?

5. Underselling themselves. Or being bad at negotiating.
Again, data shows that women start off on a worse salary than their male counterparts just because they don’t negotiate as hard.
Can you please, like, maybe, think a little, possibly about doing this little thing, if its is convenient, you know, sorry about that.

6. Living life adhering to roles: daughter, wife, mother, etc, It’s only a part of you. Not you.

7. Perpetuating sexist stereotypes: “ Boys will be boys “, “girls should not behave this way”, “nice girls don’t do that”.            

8. Run away from opportunities/change. * Run * - STOP. 

9. The mundane one – letting your life revolve around one person. Classic satellite issues.

10.  Following traditions that perpetuate sexist and male dominant values in society. I can think of several examples from India particularly in the Hindu faith that oblige a woman to adorn herself in a multitude of ways to indicate her betrothal. Are we chattel? * Rhetorical Question *
Some women however might like to do so, and that’s ok, as long as a question is asked as to the intention behind the action. ‘tis all.


Peace.

** Suggested Serving. 

Friday, November 1, 2013

Travel Roundup

I think after a certain number of long haul flights, bad airline food, and long waits at security, one needs to take stock of what makes them endure that in the first place.
Here is my collection of some of the most memorable things from the year that had me take 50 something flights to be somewhere.

1. Water sports. I don’t know why I hadn’t discovered them until now.

2. Sat in the longest cable car in the world.

3. Hiked to one of the prettiest natural beaches in Spain.

4. Celebrated my birthday at 3500 meters above sea level at Jungfraujoch.
 
5. Traveled from -1 degree Celsius to 30 degree Celsius – in 2.5 hours.

6. Ate the best key lime pie. EVER.

7. Went to Disney world. TWICE. There is still room for more.

8. Discovered the east side gallery at Berlin.

9. Had the best currywurst.

10. Drove along the Spanish coast listening to Florence and the Machine.


11. Lost money in Macau.

12. Understood the joys of using the pervasive Octopus Card in Hong Kong.

13. Had the best crème Brule in the world – not in France but in Hong Kong at the Intercontinental in Kowloon.

14. Enjoyed the Wiener Melange at the majestic Café Central which operates since 1876 in Vienna.

15. Experienced altitude sickness for the first time. 

16. Managed to rake up enough miles to upgrade to the next tier.


17. Visited London for the first time in my life! And keeping the momentum – Gibraltar.

18. Saw Africa from Europe.

19. Bid farewell to Guangzhou – my vacation home for the last 10 years.
 

20. Prayed at a Buddhist temple in Bangkok and Hong Kong. 

21.  Discovered that there are more nice people in the world than not-so-nice people.